Thank you Lynn for reminding me. Tomorrow I pick up my candy red headed Mohawk grand daughter for a two week visit. I live in a small town so we will draw looks. I’ll stand a little taller because of your reminder.
Lynn, I do not think you should beat up on yourself. There is much more going on here than just you and what ought to have done, had you known then what you know now. What has happened to you is not your fault. You could only muster the resources you had at the time. The challenges are unprecedented and confronting them is not just a question of adaption to the new 'facts of life'.
We are reaching the point where our social infrastructure is starting to crumble, in much the same ways and for similar reasons that the natural environment is crumbling; that life itself is crumbling.
Below are two analysis/observations about the business of social reproduction and the vexed question of the political roles of adults and their relationships with their adolescent children.
There is a lot to take in, but what it will do is allow you some perspective that these things are not just personal, but economic and cultural issues and that we may very well have to go to war to sort them out
Nothing that is going on right now is 'normal' in any sense. This is a crisis that involves all of us. I have a daughter who is lesbian, is getting married and wants her partner to have a child by third party surrogacy. I love her to bits, but I think what she is doing is irresponsibly self indulgent and has no respect for the child's need for a father and the male principle.
If I say anything, my family will blow up. I am preparing for the worst. Families went through this during the lead up to the civil war in the British Isles, in the late 1630s, which was as much a function of the break up of the medieval consensus as mere vehement disagreement at a personal level. This isn't personal politics anymore. This is about the regime and the fundamental bottom lines about what is right, what makes us human, what is sustainable and viable in the long term and what makes a society a legitimate expression of the life force.
I won't bother you again if you feel I am intruding Lynn, but I think your struggle is worth some effort from me to not so much comfort you, for there is none of that to be had, but to help you steel yourself for what is coming.
The problem here is not some imaginary "need for a father and the male principle." The problem is that surrogacy is a human rights violation against both mother and child and should be illegal everywhere.
We are fundamentally biologically binary creatures whose reproduction in not just a matter of creating new life, but modeling/mentoring to progeny on a day-to-day basis, what it means to be a boy or girl, man or woman, husband or wife, father or mother.
The gender politics of that are movable, for we do have the discretion to move out of traditional gender roles into feminist ones, but the fundamental underlying basic binary alliance doesn't change, and trying to cheat the process through surrogacy is ideological and familial counterfeiting that distorts and muddles fundamental rules of life and socialization, even where the mentoring relationships are loving and secure ones.
There is always going to be a fundamental disjunction between the biological family and the adoptive one, which in normal circumstances we only ever tamper with if the biological family is unavoidably and irremediably lost or gone.
Human beings need their biological roots as a fundamental element in their lives; i.e., where the people in the familial network all share common genes, traits, mannerism and traditions for good and ill, such that when one observes one's biological family, one sees something of oneself as a kind of extended existential mirror. Without it, one is orphaned at some very important and unnegotiable level, even if it is only partial. And that applies doubly if one sex is missing as well.
I was close friends with women who were lesbian when I was younger, I had several sexual adventures with women in my growing up years as if I had to tick boxes but I don't know how I created that bucket list, and what helped put it together. It was just zeitgeist and rebellion. Women's health was a strong theme in my life 70s and 80s, we were all into that but ignored our own alcohol and cigarette use. It's a mixed up world.
I don't think any parent really HOPES their child will grow up homosexual, but we find ways in our mind to get our heads round it. If they want children themselves we know it will be fraught with complications at the outset rather than within a marriage situation. I'm hoping as a first step that my daughter will find acceptance for herself as a lesbian than a gay "man" attracted to other the same.
I see no difference now between cosmetic surgery for emphasising sexual stereotypes one way or another and the hormone abuse is just bonkers.
Personally I have only known lesbians who eventually went on to have committed relationships with men from their 30s onwards.
I am documenting some role models for lesbianwomen at my podcast, Lesbian Echoes. These women have a lifetime of experience to share. Many, if not most, are gender nonconforming. Search for Lesbian Echoes at your podcast app.
Lynn Meagher is a liar, an abuser, a threat to the community. She has several unmedicated mental health / personality disorders that she refuses to get treated while all the rest of us paid the price for 20 years. Meanwhile she thinks she's qualified to tell other people they can't take their medications either even if they want them. Lynn is a poopoo peepee dumb dumb bad humanbeing and I hate her.
I always feel I could cry reading your texts. They are so sad, so beautiful and sensible. Please, receive my embrace from Brazil.
www.nocorpocerto.com
Much love to you sister. I feel in my heart that we will meet someday
Thank you Lynn for reminding me. Tomorrow I pick up my candy red headed Mohawk grand daughter for a two week visit. I live in a small town so we will draw looks. I’ll stand a little taller because of your reminder.
This made my day. Yes, please hug her tight, and stand tall next to her.
Lynn, I do not think you should beat up on yourself. There is much more going on here than just you and what ought to have done, had you known then what you know now. What has happened to you is not your fault. You could only muster the resources you had at the time. The challenges are unprecedented and confronting them is not just a question of adaption to the new 'facts of life'.
We are reaching the point where our social infrastructure is starting to crumble, in much the same ways and for similar reasons that the natural environment is crumbling; that life itself is crumbling.
Below are two analysis/observations about the business of social reproduction and the vexed question of the political roles of adults and their relationships with their adolescent children.
https://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/1581878-Romeo-and-Juliet-Revisited
https://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/1817231-An-adolescence-warning-A-Letter
Below are a further two articles on the even more vexed question of so called transgenderism.
They deconstruct the phenomenon and why it has had such a rapid and toxic effect.
https://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/2180479-Transgenderspeak-The-ITVs-Butterfly
https://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/2188652-Transgender-Inc-Kafkas-Children
There is a lot to take in, but what it will do is allow you some perspective that these things are not just personal, but economic and cultural issues and that we may very well have to go to war to sort them out
Nothing that is going on right now is 'normal' in any sense. This is a crisis that involves all of us. I have a daughter who is lesbian, is getting married and wants her partner to have a child by third party surrogacy. I love her to bits, but I think what she is doing is irresponsibly self indulgent and has no respect for the child's need for a father and the male principle.
If I say anything, my family will blow up. I am preparing for the worst. Families went through this during the lead up to the civil war in the British Isles, in the late 1630s, which was as much a function of the break up of the medieval consensus as mere vehement disagreement at a personal level. This isn't personal politics anymore. This is about the regime and the fundamental bottom lines about what is right, what makes us human, what is sustainable and viable in the long term and what makes a society a legitimate expression of the life force.
https://www.writing.com/main/view_item/item_id/2205477-Luthers-Last-Laugh-IndulGermania
I won't bother you again if you feel I am intruding Lynn, but I think your struggle is worth some effort from me to not so much comfort you, for there is none of that to be had, but to help you steel yourself for what is coming.
Regards, Christopher N
Thank you Christopher. Always appreciated.
The problem here is not some imaginary "need for a father and the male principle." The problem is that surrogacy is a human rights violation against both mother and child and should be illegal everywhere.
We are fundamentally biologically binary creatures whose reproduction in not just a matter of creating new life, but modeling/mentoring to progeny on a day-to-day basis, what it means to be a boy or girl, man or woman, husband or wife, father or mother.
The gender politics of that are movable, for we do have the discretion to move out of traditional gender roles into feminist ones, but the fundamental underlying basic binary alliance doesn't change, and trying to cheat the process through surrogacy is ideological and familial counterfeiting that distorts and muddles fundamental rules of life and socialization, even where the mentoring relationships are loving and secure ones.
There is always going to be a fundamental disjunction between the biological family and the adoptive one, which in normal circumstances we only ever tamper with if the biological family is unavoidably and irremediably lost or gone.
Human beings need their biological roots as a fundamental element in their lives; i.e., where the people in the familial network all share common genes, traits, mannerism and traditions for good and ill, such that when one observes one's biological family, one sees something of oneself as a kind of extended existential mirror. Without it, one is orphaned at some very important and unnegotiable level, even if it is only partial. And that applies doubly if one sex is missing as well.
I was close friends with women who were lesbian when I was younger, I had several sexual adventures with women in my growing up years as if I had to tick boxes but I don't know how I created that bucket list, and what helped put it together. It was just zeitgeist and rebellion. Women's health was a strong theme in my life 70s and 80s, we were all into that but ignored our own alcohol and cigarette use. It's a mixed up world.
I don't think any parent really HOPES their child will grow up homosexual, but we find ways in our mind to get our heads round it. If they want children themselves we know it will be fraught with complications at the outset rather than within a marriage situation. I'm hoping as a first step that my daughter will find acceptance for herself as a lesbian than a gay "man" attracted to other the same.
I see no difference now between cosmetic surgery for emphasising sexual stereotypes one way or another and the hormone abuse is just bonkers.
Personally I have only known lesbians who eventually went on to have committed relationships with men from their 30s onwards.
I am documenting some role models for lesbianwomen at my podcast, Lesbian Echoes. These women have a lifetime of experience to share. Many, if not most, are gender nonconforming. Search for Lesbian Echoes at your podcast app.
That’s great I’ll check it out.
Beautiful post. Thank you, sister. x
Thanks for reading, Maria. Love and solidarity.
As the mother of two teenaged daughters, I appreciate your thoughts.
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Lynn Meagher is a liar, an abuser, a threat to the community. She has several unmedicated mental health / personality disorders that she refuses to get treated while all the rest of us paid the price for 20 years. Meanwhile she thinks she's qualified to tell other people they can't take their medications either even if they want them. Lynn is a poopoo peepee dumb dumb bad humanbeing and I hate her.
You are a man, Christopher.
Like your mother’s love for you and your sisters, you can never change the fact that you are a MAN.
#SexIsBinaryAndUnchangeable
#TransWomenAreMen
#TERFsRule